If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
Let me be honest, I think wisdom has been my number one request from God for awhile now. As a mom, there are just times every single day that I don’t know what to do. Or what to say. Or what not to do, or not to say.
Lord, how should I discipline in this situation? How do I get to the heart issue behind fighting with siblings? Please give me wisdom!
God, is _______ getting sick? Is this just allergies? Should we take him in, please give me wisdom?
Jesus, ________ is having so much trouble with friends. How do I walk with him through this? Give me wisdom as his mom, Lord!
Father, potty training is hard! Give me wisdom to know how to get through this phase peacefully!
You get the point. I promise I pray something like this at least once a day!
In studying James this year, I realized that chapter 1 is not the only place where James writes about wisdom. Skip on over to James 3:13-18
13 Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. 14 But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. 15 Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. 16 For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.
17 But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.
As I looked at this passage, I realized that when I am asking for wisdom, I am asking for the kind of wisdom described in verse 17 to be manifested in me.
Wisdom doesn’t just let me know what to do, but how to do it.
These are the kinds of characteristics that I want to mark my behavior/reactions/words/attitude in situations when I need God’s wisdom. When potty training is tough, I need to be considerate and full of mercy. When sibling fights break out, I need God’s help to be a sincere peace-maker. When a child is having a hard friend situation, I want to be impartial and considerate and peace-loving.
As I continue to seek God’s wisdom each day, I can ask him to help me know what to do, but I can also ask him to give me the grace to proceed in the pure, peace-loving, considerate, submissive, merciful, fruitful, impartial, and sincere way.