me + 3

in the elevator, heading out tonight

Some wise mama told me when I was pregnant with Stinkbug (baby #2) that it would take about six months for life to feel “normal”. So true. At six months postpartum, new life seemed to enter my body because I knew what I was doing and I had the energy to do it. (Kinda.)

And after Doodlebug (baby #3), I found it to be true again… as we entered the sixth month, life just started rolling… life with three kids was “normal”. (Well, you know, if your kind of normal is saying things like “No, we don’t put our hands in the toilet.”)

And thinking back to after Ladybug (baby #1), I think it probably took about six months to get into a rhythm. Actually, I’m completely positive it did. Because at six months, she started napping more consistently, and we had entered our own groove of being mommy/baby.

So, I will go ahead and say that it takes about six months after you have a baby (whether it’s #1, #2, #3…) for life to start feeling normal. So, if you’re a sleep-deprived, un-showered, puddle of postpartum-ness, take heart– and give yourself some time and some grace.

{And yes, I took all three kids out tonight. We walked to Burger King and had ice cream cones, and then we walked over to the super nice, new playground to exert some energy. And I felt great having three kids out by myself, hence the life-feels-normal-after-six-months-postpartum thoughts!

And another thought? I love living in a walkable place! I feel like I missed so much life when I lived in America because I drove everywhere.}

Glimpses of Skip Day

There was warm sand squishing between toes…

There were hands in the sand, soaking up the fun…

There were plenty of baby giggles, kiddie laughs and grown-up smiles…

There was delicious spring weather and a sweet spring princess…

And of course, there was ice cream after (a completely unhealthy McDonald’s) dinner!

It was a perfect day. Completely.


My Top Five Newborn Things

Everyone says there are different baby “necessities”, and since I’ve just exited the newborn phase for the third time, and since I have plenty of friends baking new little ones in their ovens, I thought I’d share my top five, absolutely gotta have ’em baby things.  (This list is limited to the first three-ish months of babyhood, and it is my opinion.  These are the things that were most used by me and my three newborn Bugs.)

1. Pouch SlingMy pouch sling is from Kangaroo Korner (which is now discontinued, unfortunately!)  I have had this pouch sling since Ladybug was a newborn and my babies spent plenty of time in it for their first three months of life.  It got us through church, through the mall, through dinner sometimes, through fussy times, through walks at the park… I adore having my babies so close when they are so small, and all three of them loved being so close to me too.  Usually they would go right to sleep when I put them in the sling… {sigh} and I would just kiss their little nummy baby heads.

2. Bouncer Chair

A bouncer chair is a vital part of our baby stuff.  Just having somewhere to put baby while I’m showering, or cooking, or disciplining a sibling, or answering the door is a must for me!  It travels easily from the living room to the kitchen to the bathroom to wherever I need it next, and baby can be where I am, and see what I am doing.  I don’t need all the fancy-schmancy tricks some of them perform– you can keep the vibrating and the music, just give me a plain ol’ bouncer seat for my newborns!

3. Swaddle Blankets

All three of the Bugs loved to be swaddled for their first few months of life.  I think that the coziness of being tightly wrapped up feels secure to them.  And when you look at their conditions before entering the world, I can’t say I blame them for wanting to be wrapped up to sleep!  I had some official velcro “swaddlers” with Ladybug, but much prefered a simple cotton blanket swaddled around her just like we had learned in the hospital.

4. Gas Drops

I am not sure I used gas drops with Ladybug, but then I had two boy Bugs and wowsers!  Gas drops moved up about seventeen slots on my must-have-for-a-newborn list.  These boys are gassy.  And these drops are magic.  And don’t waste money on the name brand– generic works just as well for waaaaaay less!

5. Nursing Cover

I have nursed on a plane, in a car, on a bus, on a boat, at a zoo, in a mall, in a taxi… I can nurse my babies anywhere thanks to my nursing cover.  I didn’t know I would come to  love and depend on my nursing cover as much as I do.  It allows me to nurse wherever I am when baby needs to eat without worrying about all the things I worried about when it came to nursing in public.  Not only does it keep me modest (and warm in the winter!), it eliminates distraction for baby, so they can just eat in peace!  I have a BeBe Au Lait nursing cover, and although it seemed pricey when I bought it, it has been worth every cent!

I {Heart} Babywearing

  • Baby-wearing keeps baby close. For newborns I prefer slings, and really appreciate the way the sling keeps my baby close to me, and keeps other people away.  Not that I don’t want people to peek at my babies, but peeking is about all I want them to do!  Chances are with baby snuggled closely to my chest, most (normal) people are going to keep their distance.

  • Baby-wearing gives me free hands. This was especially important to me when Stinkbug was born… having a toddler who still needed a lot of attention and help, it was a wonderful advantage that I could wear Stinkbug and still have two hands available for Ladybug.  It also helps to have free hands while trying to grocery shop, or fold laundry!

  • Baby-wearing is essential when you regularly use public transportation. For our first six months of living overseas, we did not have access to a car.  (Now, we have the use of a car every other week.)  Wearing the kids on buses, metros, and mini-buses is a whole lot easier sometimes than wrestling a stroller on board!

  • Baby-wearing feels safe and comfortable to baby (and toddler!) I was blessed to not have colicky or fussy babies.  Even though I didn’t have “needy” babies, I could tell each of my kids loved being worn, and felt “at ease” in the Mei Tai or the Ergo.  Often they would conk out inside, feeling safe enough to get the rest they needed!

  • Baby-wearing helps build an attachment to mom and dad. I am not an attachment parent in the sense that it is mostly used today (I generally find myself in the middle of the road!), but I do believe babies and toddlers should have a healthy attachment to their parents.  Baby-wearing allows our kids to be right there with us, seeing what we see, hearing what we hear, and getting lots of kisses! (I just cannot not kiss my babies when they’re right there on me– I love it!)

Lately, baby-wearing has gotten a bad rap from some unfortunate events.  I have been asked if I will still wear Doodlebug after all the bad press baby-wearing has received.  The answer is yes.  When used properly according to manufacturer instructions, the carriers that I wear are safe for my baby and for me.  I also follow common sense guidelines such as these.  I can’t wait to snuggle Doodlebug against my chest and wear him.  I know too soon he’ll be running and jumping and pushing mama away, so I’ll soak in every moment he wants to be strapped in my arms, just as I have done with my other two babies!

This post is in support of the baby-wearing link up call to action at Adventures in Babywearing.  If you’d like even more information and updates about baby-wearing safety, and aiding small baby carrier manufacturers, check with the Baby Carrier Industry Alliance.